Focus on K.I.D.S.
The goal of the program is to have high-conflict divorcing, divorced or separated parents learn what they need to do in order to give their children the care they need. Parents who are successful at this learn skills they can use to fight less, communicate better and problem solve for the benefit of their child(ren).
Why take this approach?
It is based on the belief that parents are responsible for the decisions that affect their children. However, high-conflict divorcing or divorced parents often find it very hard to get beyond their own emotions about their divorce. In these cases, their children suffer.
And while the focus of a divorce is often on the Parenting Plan "W’s" (who, where and when), we believe that the way parents relate to and about one another when they are with their kids, has the biggest impact - good or bad - on their kids.
So, we teach parents how to interact in ways that are focused on what the kids need, not on old hurts and anger. Is it easy? No. Does it work? Absolutely. The majority of participants who complete the program do not return to court on child related issues.
How is the program organized?
It's Fair and Balanced: Parents always meet together, never alone, with their counselor. Meetings usually last 1 hour.
It's Focused on Results: The sessions help parents do what is best for their children, regardless of how they feel.
It's Individualized: The goals that are set match the particular needs of parents and their children.
It's Flexible. The number of sessions depends on the needs of the parents. There is no upfront commitment. Most couples achieve their goals in 6-8 sessions.
It Tracks Decisions: After each meeting, each parent and all attorneys receive a written summary so everyone understands what decisions and agreements were made.
It's there when you need it: Parents can return at any time to the program if they need some more help to work through new problems in the future.